Chaos in the Home
II Corinthians 13:11 “Be of one mind, live in peace. And the God of all peace will be with you (NIV).”
Why is my home so chaotic? I ask myself this question as many others often do as well.
Aside from the more obvious reasons such as; are we all getting enough sleep, regular, nutritious food, exercise, stimulation, and individual validation? Are we having regular devotions, individually and as a family? If there are still ongoing issues, we need to dig a little deeper.
I came before God several weeks ago and asked, “What is going on here? God, would you show me what the problem is and what can be done about it?” James 1:5-6 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him (NIV).”
I sat with my pen and paper and was amazed at what God said! He said, “Simplify your life. Everyone is on a different schedule, doing different activities and eating different foods at different times, so make a schedule that everyone follows; make the meals that everyone eats, (or they cook their own), and everyone should rest, eat, do chores, exercise and go to sleep at the same time.”
“What about all the upset?” I asked. “Figure out when it happens,” He whispered. “What time of day is it? What are the circumstances that set each individual off?”
“Okay,” I thought. One child is miserable when he gets home from school. He is an introvert and likes quiet, but he has been around noise and demands all day. He doesn’t eat very much of his lunch, so he must need to eat in a quiet place, alone, until he relaxes and gets his blood sugar levels back up before he comes around the rest of us.
I get upset when I am in a time crunch and stressed when we are not on time because I like order and efficiency. What can I do to minimize the pressure, especially in the morning, when I have to make sure three of us are up, dressed, fed and prepared for our day? I can get up half an hour earlier, make lunches ahead of time, by doing it the night before, or making individually-sized portions that just need to be laid out, so the children can choose their preferred lunch packages in a few moments.
Each child could have their own alarm clock set in their room, and I could ensure they each have a working watch, so they can learn to monitor the time for themselves. Their clothes could be chosen and laid out the night before. All homework, and outdoor clothing items could be collected and placed by their backpacks the evening before, to avoid the last minute scramble.
I could simplify our mealtimes by incorporating one food item, everyday that each person prefers, or rotate meals in such a way that each person gets their preferred meal at least one or twice a week.
You may have other solutions that God shows you for specific problems you are experiencing.
Thought: The word most often used in the Bible for peace is “Shalom.” This has the idea of wholeness, completeness, or fullness inferred in it. It also has a sense of well-being, or being in good health.
Prayer: God would you show me what the problems are in my home? Would you tell me what I could do about this? Give me your wisdom and I will give you all the glory. Amen.
Challenge: Sit with a paper and pen in your hand and talk to God. Ask Him for answers to problems in your life; then listen to what He speaks into your heart and write it down. You may be as pleasantly surprised as I was.